Choose Joy

I read something today that saddened me greatly. It also  made me feel a little stumped at just how cruel some human beings can be to each other sometimes. I have never really understood the whole wishing harm on someone.. I know we get angry and wish we hadn't met someone, or we wished they would get out of our lives. To me wishing  a wish is  dangerous business if you wish in the negatives.

Number 2 rule in my beliefs is what you give out, you get back 3 fold. So it stands to reason that  you should always give out  positives and that goes for wishes as well. Possibly its the passive aggressive in me but I think why  spend  hours thinking negatively about how to get even with someone when you can get a far better result getting on with life and showing them that their feelings don't matter to you. Once I get over the shock of having to deal with someone  that has hurt me. I tend to think ok I will get revenge by wishing you a happy life, just without me in it. On the whole it works. Some people, its a little more complicated. We cant just get out of our lives some family members because of the political fall out within families, But with anyone else we choose  whether we allow them to hurt us  and if we wish to hand them over that power any more.

I figure if you wish the person that has  hurt you happiness then you get back happiness 3 times bigger.. what better revenge is that!!

wishing someone  happiness.. and meaning it has another effect. It allows you to let go of the hurt and negative feelings you have accumulated. This is something You do need to do. The longer you store up that hurt, the more it permeates  through you and everything/one around you. Every one of us knows at least one bitter, twisted and lonely old person. Think about that when you hold on to your anger and hurt feelings.

I'm not talking about forgiving either. Some things cannot be forgiven and no one should expect you to if you don't want to. There is a huge difference between  letting go of the hurt and forgiving a person in my book. I let go of the pain when I get to the point where I need to but I don't forgive the action. To forgive the action to me is to say what happened/was said is acceptable. By letting go of the pain I am letting go of that persons power over me. By letting that person out of my life if needs be, I am disallowing them to ever have that power again.

Beyond that I think leave the negative feelings or getting even to Karma.. she's an exert at things like that and has a long long memory. If you have someone in your life that is hurtful and cruel, get them out of your life, cause believe me life is far better without them in it.  If your worried that they will spread hurtful things about you, ask yourself this.Do you really need the people in your life to make you happy if they are going to believe half truths and out right bitchy gossip?

Choose Joy and happiness leave the rest to karma,, thats why she is such a bitch at times =oP