Many years ago I went to a self esteem course that was organized by the principle of my kids school specifically for mum's and helping them to boost their confidence in them selves. It was honestly, the best thing I ever did. I learned that it was ok to accept myself for who I am if I was happy with how I was. I also learned I didn't have to accept being treated with disrespect if I didn't want to be. In essence I learned that If I wanted people to treat me with respect then I had to be the one to show them how and accept nothing less.
One of the first lessons I can remember was being asked to write down 3 positive things about myself, then the 5 then the 10.
Back then I struggled with the 3. Incredibly shy, so overwhelmed with life and feeling like there really wasn't any good reason why I was even here on this earth. Every one when they hear me say that is shocked, because they all picture me as smiling, loving life, full of energy and strength. Its the biggest Bluff ever and I do it well.
Don't get me wrong, I am a positive person.. don't mistake that a positive personality cant have depression either.. they are 2 separate things one is a personality the other is an illness. In a way it would probably be less confusing perhaps to be a glass is half empty kind of person and have depression. But I am not so its really not worth thinking about.
Back to the positive things though. With help I managed 5 things that first week. Even if I didn't believe it, other mums that knew me and listed out the descriptions of myself they thought made me sound like I was the kind of person I might like to know so I stuck with it. I am so glad I did.
As I am working on rebuilding my self esteem I am finding myself remembering many of the things I learned during that course. I had forgotten to implement most of it. What with being bogged down with kids, husbands and life its easy to forget that just because we are a wife and mother doesnt mean we stopped being a woman. A person with a right to feel important and appreciated.
So I invite you to write down 10 positive things about YOU. Not about your parenting skills, your working skills, or even your married life.. Just about you as a person. This it all about what you see of yourself on the inside not the outside. This is about nourishing your soul and esteem. Your soul doesn't care if you are fat, thin, a six foot beauty queen or the person with a birth defect it only see's what's inside you.
Get a piece of paper or better a postit note, and start with
"I am Unique" and go from there.
If you need help with thinking of some positive words to describe yourself I have a link here you can use.
http://www.englishclub.com/vocabulary/adjectives-personality-positive.htm
Maybe ask a friend what positive traits they see in your personality. who knows they may just describe someone you would like to be friends with too♥
Put it somewhere you can see it every day and repeat those 10 things 3 times every day beginning with "My name is**** and I am Unique, I am...."
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