Have a fabulous Friday

Whoo hoo, put on your happy face, its Friday.. Well it is here anyway. I cant believe how fast this week has gone. Our first home open this weekend and I am both excited and nervous. what if it sells straight away, what if no one comes to see it? What will be will be, but I cant help but have those thoughts from time to time. Still  Today is here and I am going to enjoy the moment.


 Today will be one of those days where  I am not sure if its appropriate to smile, laugh or be happy though. Today I am meeting with my mum and family  and we scatter my nan's ashes where she requested them to be scattered. She has been gone  a couple of months now so the healing process has begun, yet I think  this is a very important step for many of  my family members, to help them move on. 

Its funny how many different ways there are for people deal with loss isn't it. some are able to move on a little easier and continue to live life appreciating the time spent with the person. while some internalize, keeping their thoughts and feelings to themselves. Then there are others that continue to talk about  the person gone talking about them  more than  they ever did when still here. None are considered wrong ways to  mourn. Everyone has a different coping tool, mainly entwined with their spirituality and beliefs.


On the outside  to others I seem to be able to move on fairly quickly. Its not that I don't  think about them any more, quite the opposite in fact. When someone passes I tend to think of them much more. For me though constantly talking about the person passed is not the way to go. Believe it or not there truly are things I dont talk about. I understand that for others its the only way they can cope and by talking about them in a small way they are still with them. But when I talk about the person I want to talk about them in a celebratory way not think about the things they will now miss or would love to see so I tend to distance myself from those that need to do  that. That's just my coping tool. 


I do my crying when they pass  and at the funeral then  I have purged my sadness its time to think of the persons gift to life and myself. Seeing others crying  upsets me terribly so going to  see the ashes scattered is  going to be a really hard thing for me to do today. I am going in support for my mum and extended familyand I do so gladly, but a part of me wants to run kicking and screaming saying hell no I aint going.

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Anyway hopefully today wont be all that bad and there has been enough time since her passing that everyone is just happy to share a moment thinking of lovely moments shared with Nan over her  lifetime. In Truth I think nan would get a kick out of  today. Out on  a boat, on a hot day, taking in the smell of the ocean/estuary, listening to the  sounds of life all around and  surrounded by family. I can picture her face, smiling and just loving the moment for what it is. What more can a person ask for as their send off!


Anyway what ever your plans for the weekend and for today. Please have a fabulous time. Life is for living and appreciating. By doing this you honour those who have passed before you.